This might be an over share, but here goes! I rarely sleep in the bed with my wife. The reasons for this are many – she needs a solid eight hours and I do not! So often I read, flip channels, draw, paint, write, straighten the kitchen… many things, well into the night. She is usually up before the sun is, and leaves for work shortly afterwards. I have the amazing luxury of sleeping in till 7 or 7:15 and on days when I am sick or tired I can even sleep till 8-9 before I am risk falling behind routine. Newer studies will reflect that not sharing a bed doesn’t equate to divorce, often it can save a marriage if you keep two different schedules or if one partner is a light sleeper and another snores or anything like that… I’m sure most guys would hear that and think, dude when do you get laid (I am male-minded also and that is the first thing I think when I hear of a couple not sleeping together.) Then we need to remember, we are talking about actual sleep not “sleeping” that way! lol It’s not the sharing of the bed that is important, it’s the love and connection and the constant showing of those things.
(Mother! I just soaked my entire desk in decaf! Grrrr!)
Anyway, sorry about that angry outburst! lol I was talking about the showing of love, here we go: I enjoy waking my wife up for work, it’s nicer than some beepy alarm. I set my alarm for 15 minutes before she actually needs to be up and then I creep in there and talk to her. If she is really tired I just curl up under the covers, but I bring the cats in and the dog gets all happy so she can’t really keep sleeping! Then when she gets up to shower I make her coffee and a warm breakfast – usually fried eggs and toast, an omelet or an egg sammy if she is cutting it close and the breakfast might have to travel!
I also like to pack her lunch. It’s cost effective and a way of taking care of her even when I’m not there. (If she goes out of town I usually make a few of them, they last as long as they are kept cool!)