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A Proverbs 31 woman… (Finances, Industry & Homemaking)

on June 27, 2013

This is a continuation of the blog I started Monday, please read it here if you haven’t. I would just like you to know where this is all coming from!

6. Finances – A Virtuous Woman seeks her husband’s approval before making purchases and spends money wisely. She is careful to purchase quality items which her family needs. (Proverbs 31: 14, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 18, 1 Timothy 6: 10, Ephesians 5: 23, Deuteronomy 14: 22, Numbers 18: 26)

I think that when I was younger I saw “seeking approval” as asking permission, it’s not. I am very well aware that I can make any purchase I want. New running shoes, sure. New bike, no problem. My wife wants me so taken care of that some might say it’s spoiling me. I know that, but I also know that while she is out earning the money she is trusting me to make that money last. To pay our bills, to take care of our children and to have the things we need. That trust makes me want to do a good job!

It’s, once again, about us being equal but different. We recently celebrated my wife’s birthday at our favorite restaurant. It’s not a place we go often, as the price can be heavy (at least for a one income family.) At the end of the meal I thanked her for working as hard as she does to make that meal, and our life, possible. She could have just said, “You’re welcome.” Instead she thanked me for handling the finances and for making it possible to fit that special birthday meal in. It is in that way that we both put importance on what the other brings to the table.

When I make purchases I look at what we need and what we have coming up (birthday parties, ect.) I pray and give thanks for  the money we have and I pray for guidance on how to spend it wisely, I make a plan, and then I present my plan to my wife. This isn’t because I have to ask or because I am too dim to make the right decision, this is simply the final step in feeling secure about my decisions.

7.  Industry – A Virtuous Woman works willingly with her hands. She sings praises to God and does not grumble while completing her tasks. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 24, Proverbs 31: 31, Philippians 2: 14)

Look, we are pretty lucky, us women of the modern worlds. We are no longer weaving and building from scratch, so we actually get off a little easy here. It’s not as if we do these work-heavy jobs daily, but that we are willing where needed. We will put in the elbow grease and do it happily. If you do get caught up in the, “I work so hard, why am I having to do this also?!” as we all do from time to time you should pay extra attention to that last line, she sings praises… It is IMPOSSIBLE to sing praises and grumble!!! When I see a rough day of hard housework spill out in front of me I turn on the radio (I listen to K-LOVE, it’s like the B97 of Christian music) and I start singing, all the angst and enormity of the task just melts away as I move through my day with my focus on worship!!!!

8. Homemaking – A Virtuous Woman is a homemaker. She creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and guests. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her. (Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20 – 22, Proverbs 31: 27, Titus 2: 5, 1 Peter 4: 9, Hebrews 13: 2)

I know. I know I keep saying this, but look at what is not written – she is a homemaker, not a PERFECT homemaker. I am so far from perfect with my housework, I am still learning. Seems I have a handle on the dishes, kitchen, living room and vacuuming, but if I try to do laundry then the kitchen goes and explodes! While I might not be perfect I am ALWAYS busy and my home is comfortable. Just try to stop by for a moment, you will stay for hours and you will feel at home. I will feed you and we will talk (and probably laugh) the evening away, if you have a problem chances are eventually it will come up and we’ll work out a plan to attack it. It just is that way with me, it always has been. I have a gift of hearing what you might not even be saying, of pulling out the hurt or upset pieces and then knowing what to say to get my message across, to get the advice out there without being preachy. I think half of that is that I am sincerely trying to help and the other half is that the people I talk to know that they are free to make whatever decision they want – take the advice or leave it – and I will still be willing to help when the look for it again. While that has been my nature my entire life, I now pray before doling out the advice It’s often the same advice, but with MUCH softer words now!!!

EEK!!! Tomorrow we finish this up with Time and Beauty!!!


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