the Trigger-happy housewife

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It’s not me, it’s you.

on September 18, 2014

I am breaking up with Facebook. It’s a strange place to be. There are so many, many great things about FB and I want to give it a go. Truth is, I have been giving it a go. There have been the brightest moments:

  • Prayer request both given and received. It is a BEAUTIFUL thing to have so many amazing people praying for you at the drop of a few key strokes.
  • I love seeing the smiling faces of my friend’s children as they accomplish life.
  • I have reconnected with some amazing people and met many awesome people through FB.
  • My Friend List is kind of small for most people these days. Despite the fact that it includes people from my YT world, I know and like everyone on it.
  • I have used FB to find owners to pups and I have shared lost fur family.
  • I love reading little updates from my church family, and I like sharing them.

However, lately I have been in a heightened place of anxiety and sadness. There is a lot to that, but this is a post relevant to FB so we will stay on track. Let me just say that as I get better it was like a one step forward, two steps back dance. No fun.

  • Facebook made videos play automatically. (A feature that I fixed, but only after seeing things I can never unsee.) I do not need to SEE a dog being beaten or an infant being abused or teenagers assaulting homeless a sleeping homeless man. Sure, share a still to help catch them but the video I don’t need. I know that these things happen, I think seeing them does NOTHING to heal the hurt (if anything knowing your attack is viral on TV or whatnot I am sure can add to humiliation) and it put something ugly in us.
  • I have witnessed more raciest and homophobic “jokes” or statements shared and re-shared without fact checking or thought as to what is actually being supported. Many times by my closest friends. It can make you feel truly alienated, because while they may not feel that way about ME, in their world I am the exception and knowing me has done nothing to change there views. Sad.
  • NEWS – all bad all the time. Seems every time I start to feel safe there is a plethora of news stories on FB that make me scared to leave the house again.

So, I am in this place of taking a break. App deleted off my phone (BIG deal, BIG) and I turned off all notifications and emails (there will be no “I just want to come by and get my stuff” leading to dinner leading to…) only visiting from my computer. For now I am looking to work on the twitter to share my little moments and Instagram as always, we will see where it goes. If we can stop dating but be friends, then this is how it will stay – sharing blog post and art, checking in here and again. But if FB makes things weird I will be forced to cut all ties.

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