the Trigger-happy housewife

Bringing the constantly fantastic and painfully insane together daily!

Simple & yummy!

Real quick, because lately if it ain’t quick it ain’t happening! lol Two fast, fun things to eat:

First up, Banana Cups – basically a banana ice cream made and then portioned out to be portable and quickly accessible!

All you need to make them my way is bananas (very, very ripe) and coconut oil. Of course, you can add chocolate chips, coconut bits or anything that you would like!

Next is a dish I make a lot and I think I shared here before. At least a variation probably! I love to cook for my wife. It makes me happy that even though she is out of town I can still be a big part of her daily life.

Leave a comment »

One on one…

To be with my wife, spending time with her and doing things that they kids could do with us like feeding the ducks. The girls are at a strange age, where anything that happens before one in the afternoon will be passed by for more sleep. I get it, growing bodies and all. Truly we are blessed to have tweens who are still a delight to be with, who choose to spend time with us and who, when they are drug out of bed, acclimate quickly and still enjoy themselves. Still, it’s an odd feeling, like we are doing something wrong. lol This weekend my wife and I stepped out twice without the girls. We went to a local bar to see a band her father was playing with. We only went for 28 minutes and we didn’t drink, but it still felt silly to not be spending that time with the kids. (Even at only 28 minutes the smoke managed to make me smell like an ashtray and get sick.)

We also went and stopped at the park to feed the ducks some old bread that the kids have been declining to go feed them. The lack of children allowed us to be quiet and still enough to get the seagulls to eat from our hands.

It felt almost like a glimpse into our older years, when it will be just she and I more and more often. My heart aches a little (a lot) at that thought. My girls are my life. I am blessed beyond blessed, though, that I have married my best friend. I enjoy doing nothing with her, I love being outside with her, I like cleaning house with her… Life is good with her, so I have a lot to look forward to!

Leave a comment »

Saturday night!

There is the beautiful thing that happens in life once you stop looking for SOMETHING to happen, or maybe it’s after you have had enough things happen that you stop needing them and start longing for life just to quiet down. Either way once that switch is flipped there is a beautiful world of nothing that becomes your everything and it is an awesome way to live!

Leave a comment »


I know I have talked about how my wife and I play games on our phones. Here and there, tucked in the nooks and crannies of the day, are moments when life wouldn’t allow us to interact but because of smart phones we can play a board game like Scrabble or Pictionary. How awesome? Currently I am waiting for her to respond on a drawing – we have a 145 turn streak going! lol Here, without comment or labels to tell you whose are whose, are a few of our drawings!

Also, OMGosh! Do you guys remember those coin games where you drop in a coin or quarter and knock over more coins or quarters and prizes? They also have a ticket machine with this same set up at Chuck E. Cheese. My wife found an app for that called Coin Dozer and I LOVE IT! Like, love! Beyond! It was always my favorite thing at the fairs and festivals, and Chuck E. Cheese! lolphone games (1)

Leave a comment »

Stealing time.

The kids come first. That is that. This is a point that I could struggle with, but I am blessed by God to have a partner who has decided to live this way as well. I am not saying there are never times when we get selfish and desire more adult time together, I am saying that we work through those times understanding that we are loved and cherished and very important – but that our daughters come first. As the girls have gotten older, however, it has become a bit easier to steal a moment here or there. It started as a “date night” when after the kids were fed and taken care of they were set on auto for a few hours while we closed our bedroom door and watched a movie (or folded clothes) alone and uninterrupted. The other day they were at my parents house and my wife and I found that we had a few moments to simply be and we used it to go get snowballs. lol

It was fun, though I felt a twinge of guilt because treats are usually a family event. It was good to have a  childhood moment shared only with her and the sky was beautiful!

Leave a comment »

A passing comment.

It was late and we were both tired. The whole day had been a bust on an emotional level. There was nothing wrong, nothing. We were both verbal about how blessed we were, we praised God throughout the day for this life we share and the fact that we share it. All day I was aware of how her existence makes me happier, lighter, joyful – and yet, I was reactive. I am sharp – quick and dangerous. Sarcastic humor can be hurtful, especially when it is humorless. This day was like that, the jabs were barbs. I didn’t even mean them, but they were flowing. It was like my bad mood and life were on this roll where life just kept setting me up, lobbing the ball perfectly across the plate so I could take a swing. I took them, not all but most of them. I was failing at holding back, sometimes it’s like that. She was doing a super job at squashing her anger or hurt and continuing to try to pursue a good day. That made it worse, I don’t know why, but it did. It wasn’t that I wasn’t sorry, I was – I certainly do not enjoy being rough on her. It wasn’t that I didn’t want to stop, I did – my heart and soul wanted to. I just couldn’t.

That night as she readied herself for bed I could see how my abrasiveness had done a number on her. This was a day where she absorbed and held us together and I truly appreciated that. I checked in, told her I was just in that place and that I had really tried to curb it. She said she knew and that she appreciated my effort, however failed. Then after she said goodnight and that she loved me I muttered, “Yeah? Are you sure you’re not just collecting all this awful and deciding you don’t love me?” (Or something like that, I can’t say for sure because it was a passing comment. Not really what I thought, but I am sure rooted in my subconsciousness by life.) She said no and kissed me good night.

Then, two days later after things have settled and we are better than ever. I have gotten over whatever scritch was irking me and she has brushed it all off she takes my hand and looks straight at me and brings up my comment. She says that she can’t ever imagine not loving me, but that if she ever was in a place in life where she didn’t realize that she was totally in love with me she would do the work and we would fix it. Leaving is not an option. She wants me to realize the magnitude of the commitment she made when we married each other and I do. I realize it because it is the same for me. While I know where I am at, and I know where she is at – it is so good beyond belief to hear it again. Maybe I shouldn’t need to, maybe I should just be able to rest in my knowledge. Maybe, but I am human and she knows that. She knows me in a way I don’t even know me, and I believe that I know her in that same way. It is so perfectly God sent that I can’t express my gratitude or elation and I may never be able to. I look forward to trying, though, everyday of my life.

I love you, babe. Thank you.

Leave a comment »

Fizz! Boom! Read! Summer Reading wrap-up 2014

11th july 14 library (3)

After weeks of our library looking like this – so full and crazy – the summer reading program is wrapping up. This won’t end all the traffic jams and long lines, but it will help. We are so spoiled, having it to ourselves throughout the year. lol

To be honest my girls are readers, so it’s not like we had to PUSH to get these things done. Still it was fun for them to feel engaged in a new way and to be rewarded for good behavior and habits.

Leave a comment »

Words With Wife

My amazing wife downloaded Words With Friends on her phone and then texted me to do the same. For the last few weeks we’ve been playing with each other. I know that many people will tell you that electronic communication is killing relationships, but my wife and I have used it to keep in touch and have fun despite the busy life we are blessed with! I text pictures of my adventures throughout the day – cleaning progress, the kids schooling or playing, paintings, playing with makeup. She text me pictures of sunsets and wildlife or testing. We both use text as a way to shoot small appreciations and love notes all day. What makes this work is that it is IN ADDITION to the physical and emotional interaction that we strive to find time to. My wife and I met in August of 2005 and by February of 2006 we worked together – CLOSE TOGETHER – so it is nice to stay in touch all day now that we are not together all the time.

Anyword, this game has been great fun. It has a chat built in so we joke and play and get to use our brains. Scrabble on!

Leave a comment »

Happy birthday!!!

My most amazing wife is 34 today! I was supposed to bake her a pineapple upside down cake, but she was given the day off at the last minute and all plans are off. lol

Instead she is getting a store bought almond cake with whipped icing for today and her cake baked tomorrow. The girls gave her new undershirts and running shorts and a pair of wind chimes. I am taking her to dinner Saturday night, it’s our tradition.

Leave a comment »

Memorial Day 2014

My wife and I spent the weekend watching the college softball Super Regionals. I had never watched softball before and I was instantly hooked! (Look, I have been looking for a sport to enjoy anywhere near the way I enjoy football and nothing has worked out. I love stats and facts, but I also love to watch the game. Basketball just hasn’t clicked, I keep trying but I got nothing. I think, now, that if we had a local baseball team I could get into it but I really and truly wish there was a pro level women’s softball/baseball league.) Anywho, I fell in love. My wife explained the game on a rudimentary level, but by that first night I was reading several websites so that I could know the rules and the distances and all. On Saturday I even printed a bracket so I could track games and team advancement. I am uber stoked for the World Series this weekend! UBER!

While that was all fun, we did waste a pretty amount of time. Only, see, waste is such a negative word. the reality is that there is always something that needs doing. There are always chores, maintenance projects, and house things – but if you go from work mode to housework mode with no stop and no reconnect it gets disjointed and rough. My wife and I spend a lot of superficial moments with each other through the day – and I don’t mean that in a bad way at all. Those easy interactions are like WD-40 for a relationship, they don’t replace actual work but they make things easier. Fun text messages allow us to flirt and play as well as communicate bigger information. Instead of only getting a text to pick up milk she get five or more a day, updating whatever project I am working on, telling her how I am feeling or what I am thinking of – we have an understanding that unless she tells me otherwise I am free to text her as much as I want if I understand she can’t always text me back or check them right away. I love it. We send pictures and videos back and forth and recently she started instagram-ing – just for me. lol Still, to just be together – just hang out and BE – is as important as all the housework in the world. That’s what we did, we folded a twee of laundry and we vedged out.

This was especially nice because my wife had a four day weekend that allowed us to spend Friday with the girls and Saturday/Sunday in the family room watching softball (the kids were in and out) and still have Memorial Day to putter around the house. Putter we did!

So much got done, and it is no surprise to me that it happened while she worked outside and I worked inside! (I can’t help it, she is a major distraction! lol) It was nice, to work in the house and see her through the windows as she worked outside. I finally managed to clear the table in it’s entirety! I got the kitchen cleaned, cooked and managed to run a few loads of laundry as well as fold and put away a few. She, on the other hand, was amazing! She got the porch cleared (it had been accumulating items in the rush and fuss of  life) and the yard cleaned and cut, the shed organized, the burnable trash burning!!! On top of all of that she also had Paisley outside with her and tended to her all day (another blog post will explain why that is a big deal.)

This was, by far, my favorite Memorial Day that I can remember for a long, long, long time!


Leave a comment »

%d bloggers like this: